If it’s smallish/softish that starts to kind of chip away at my arousal. I get it, it’s play, and to want to participate, you would enjoy such imposition, etc., but from my remove, my take is that I just strongly dislike being told how to feel. I always feel like I don’t know what to say and then I don’t want to be told what to say. I wouldn’t even know what to do? Stoya: Ha. Yes. I know that feeling. It will be great feeling that brings the individual with interest towards the peak. I will guarantee it is a much higher % than of men in general. So maybe he gets off on humiliation in general? This is garden-variety erotic humiliation. What if he wasn’t embarrassed to tell her at all, that it was all part of some bid for exponential humiliation? Stoya: The only one I can think of wasn’t even small, he was just convinced it was. Stoya: And there are plenty of women who can easily tolerate, or even enjoy, what he’s asking for.